I think that everyone is over reacting (in some way or another). Signing the piece of paper wasn't that big of a deal and doesn't say anything we don't already feel for each other. no, we didn't get married, no we're not planning to in the very near future (but yes, i do plan on marrying him one day). we just did it so that i can cover Aerith under my insurance. that's it. and the joint checking was needed to help prove the partnership (and will make bill paying easier).
I hope that clears things up. sorry for the misconceptions, extra happiness, or hurt that my previous post caused people.